How many times have you received a gift that you knew, from the moment it was handed to you, that you would never use it? Or my favorite… an expensive gift that you can’t do anything with, but its actively dying… like flowers.
I wanted to honor my best friend some years ago, so I bought her Over $100 worth of calla lilies. She loved them! She loved them for the 3 days they lasted before wilting.
Ugh what a waste of money! We could’ve done so many other things or gone to some cool places for that kind of money.
Before you make the detrimental mistake of just buying someone flowers for Mother’s day, please read this!
Mother’s day is rapidly approaching and I’m realizing that there are many misconceptions about what mothers actually want for gifts. That is a serious travesty! I have done some research from moms all over, especially those who struggle with their mental health, and I have compiled the top 10 gifts mothers would actually want for Mother’s Day.
1. A nap
Contrary to popular belief, mothers DO NOT want to wake up to breakfast at 6am. That is entirely against my religion! Please don’t wake your mom up with that. Let her sleep! Please! If you really want mother’s day brownie points, take the kids, leave the house, and let her sleep!
2. Redeemable vouchers
I know this is an old school idea, but it still works. It’s very difficult for us to be honest and say when we need help. Or worse, we ask for help, and no one is willing to help out or give us the break we desperately need. With redeemable vouchers, mothers can take the break they need when they need it. Some ideas would be vouchers for someone else to cook, do the dishes, wash and fold the laundry or vouchers for a massage, a bath, or… my favorite… a trip to the bathroom ALONE. Haha!
3. An outing
It is common to believe moms want elaborate dinners or hundreds of dollars on flowers. And although some women may find those things appealing, most would rather have some fresh air. Plan a nice long adventure around your area. Discover hidden trails and gardens that she might enjoy. It’s rare that we get to stop and just enjoy what’s around us, so a trip to a garden could be a wonderful gift for the mother in your life.
4. The amazing hair dryer/brush
Another request was making certain times of the day easier. I am a huge fan of this Revlon hair dryer brush! As someone who sometimes struggles with depression, this hair brush makes the mornings easier and the added volumizer will give the mom in your life an added confidence. If a gift can make my life easier in any way, sign me up!
5. Time alone
Being a single parent means time alone is rare. The greatest mother’s day gift would be having someone babysit my kids for a day. I love my critters, but they run my patience out and there just isn’t time to recharge. A day (or two..) alone would give mom the chance to recoup and be the best mom she is able to be. Feel free to add this to your vouchers!
6. Handmade cards
My baby girl is 6 and the little handmade cards she makes for me are just adorable. However, as an adult, I haven’t made my mother any handmade cards since I was a kid. It seems a bit childish, but these cards hold so much meaning for us. How much would it surprise her if you created a card for her instead of just buying one? She would be elated by your thoughtfulness!
7. Spend time with her
This is another easy but overlooked gift. As a working mother, I don’t get enough time with my kids. I’m always running, blogging, or teaching. There’s just so much to do. I would imagine a perfect mother’s day involving just existing with my kids. No running, no cleaning, no cooking, just vegging out on the couch in front of a marathon of some show we love eating whatever can be delivered to us. Quality time is taken for granted. Our mothers are beautiful but they are not eternal. This is the time to just enjoy her company because she is here.
8. Gratefulness journal/Planner
I am a lover of journals and planners any day of the week. Planners keep my day and my thoughts organized and helps me to keep track of what I have going on. I spend quite a bit on journals- one for each responsibility (teacher, mother, blogger). It also helps if the journal or planner comes with words of wisdom, gratefulness, or colorful pages. It inspires me to keep using it. This would be a great gift for the mom in your life!
9. Invest in her
I have no idea what the number is of women who have had to defer their dreams because of having children. Some are able to overcome that, but others who are single parents and only have one income, struggle with making moves towards our dreams. If there is something that a mom has been expressing she’s always wanted to do, please invest in her. If it’s picking up yoga, dance classes, starting steps of a business, blogging, etc.- please show her that her ideas and thoughts are valuable and invest in her dreams and ideas. This could be buying her a canvas and paint brushes or crochet needles for some projects she wants to finish. She is worth it and should be allowed to see her dreams realized despite having children.
10. Essential oils
Everyone needs a spa day without having to go to a spa. Essential oils are… essential for this! They are proven to relax and calm the most anxious of minds and helps to de-stress. I have a diffuser by my pillow with lavender in it and that promotes calmness and sleep. This would be a wonderful gift for a mother who is always running and just in need of a relaxing moment in her own space.
I hope these suggestions help you with your gift buying process this week! More importantly, I hope you take the time to truly honor the mother that is in your life- be it your mother, your wife, your sister, or an aunt. Whoever it may be, for this moment, honor their hard work and dedication to putting everything and everyone before their own needs.
Happy Mother’s Day!